Have you noticed your child having hypersensitive reactions to situations? Are you worried they may find themselves without friends and in precarious situations because of their reactions? If you answered yes, you aren’t alone.Here are three importa
Have you noticed your child having hypersensitive reactions to situations? Are you worried they may find themselves without friends and in precarious situations because of their reactions? If you answered yes, you aren’t alone.
Here are three important ways you can help your child when he seems to be hypersensitive or overreacts.
Talk to your child
Begin by taking the time to talk to your child about various past situations and actions you have noticed. It is very important to take the time during a non-stress situation to look back and review actions and events.
You can begin by asking your child to explain to you their point of view and their feelings during the situations.
Ask how they feel their actions reflected upon themselves.
Once you have an understanding of your child’s feelings in each particular situation you can then begin to explore alternate ways it could have been handled.
You can role play
Act out a variety of situations and expected behaviors
Allow them to handle things
As you notice your child having continued hypersensitive reactions you must try to avoid stepping in and taking over. Your child needs to learn how to handle situations and events on their own and in their own way.
It is good to review a reaction after an event. Reviewing during an event could actually draw even more negative attention to what is happening.
As you notice your child making an effort to control their emotions you should praise and compliment them on their choices and their ability to remain calmer in the situation. Focusing on the positives as your child strives to learn acceptable behavior is important.
Provide a safe, quiet place
Your child needs a place to go to collect their thoughts, regroup, and think through how they should handle the situation. By providing your child an outlet, you are giving them a way of removing themselves from the situation and taking the time necessary to think through their actions and choices.
This simple spot in a room, space at school, or even a relaxation technique can help them to better handle individual situations no matter where they are.
Having a hypersensitive child can be a struggle
No parent wants to see their child with hurt or upset feelings, but it can be a part of growing up. It is important to learn better ways to deal with issues and concerns.
If you notice that your child has adverse or over dramatic reactions to everyday situations, try the techniques above. If your child continues to struggle with everyday encounters you may need to work with a professional who can help them learn other coping techniques for dealing with anxiety.
While hypersensitivity can be a sign of a bigger anxiety issue, most of the time you can simply begin working with your child through role playing, discussions, and practice events to help them learn a new way of approaching and dealing with specific environments and situations. You can help you child master their reactions and enjoy a happier play environment.
A. Lynn Scoresby, founder and president of My Family Track , First Answers , and Achievement Synchrony , and has been a marriage and family psychologist for more than 35 years. He has published more than 20 books and training programs.