A huge lie being promoted by the pornography industry is that pornography is a harmless personal choice and those who oppose pornography are trying to push their personal values onto others. Here is the blunt truth about the dangers of pornography use – dangers that have nothing to do with a personal value system.
When a guy is exposed to pornography, relationships become strictly about sex- you, as a person, don’t matter much.
Pornography portrays relationships where women are treated like objects, where they like to be degraded and are often harmed. It becomes increasingly difficult for a guy, who is viewing pornography, not to treat a girl friend or wife like this.
Compassion, empathy, being unselfish – these are things that don’t happen when pornography is a part of your relationship. The guy’s world is all about him and his wants – your needs and feelings don’t matter than much.
Your boyfriend or husband will probably care more about sex and how your look than who you are and what you think. This will damage your self esteem and confidence.
Your boyfriend or husband is learning that violence and coercion are an acceptable part of a relationship. Are you comfortable with that?
Are you OK with your boyfriend or husband cheating on you? A guy may say that he he’s faithful, but statistics show that when you view pornography, the idea of being faithful to your partner is no longer a part of your thinking. You start looking for ways to cheat in a relationship and get away with it.
It’s likely that your relationship is clouded with deceit, drama-based, fear or lust based, and draining. Can you honestly say that you a better person, because of being in this relationship?
The two charts, below, were created by Dr. Jill C. Manning, a nationally recognized expert in the field of pornography addiction. The charts make it clear why pornography use and healthy relationships don’t go together.