When you get into a relationship, it's often all rainbows, butterflies and endless excitement. You can't see anything but the perfect person you've fallen for, and you think your relationship is the best thing to ever happen to you. But as the relationship progresses, it's not quite as wonderful as it was in the beginning.
You might start to notice a few bothersome things, but you're in love... and you are convinced that you're meant to be. But before you know it, you've slipped into a toxic relationship— and it's not easy to get out of.
As much as you want to believe otherwise, this person you fell in love with isn't going to change. They're never going to be the person you want them to be. If your relationship shows these toxic signs, it's time to get out:
1. They're mean to you
Your significant other should love and care for you— not be rude to you. They might say they're only joking, but if they're hurting you and they know it, it's not OK.
2. They're any form of abusive
You should never have to put up with any type of abuse. This includes physical, mental, emotional, sexual or any other abuse.
3. You dread spending time with them
You should look forward to being with your love. When you start dreading your time together, that's a huge sign that something's wrong.
4. They belittle you
Your partner should never do anything to make you feel insignificant or embarrassed. They should lift you up and make you feel awesome.
5. You're the only one giving
You give and give, and they take and take. If you notice your relationship is super one-sided, that might be something you want to address with your partner.
6. They're constantly judging you
You should feel comfortable to be yourself around your partner. If you constantly feel judged, your relationship might be toxic.
7. You bring each other down
You should lift each other up and make each other want to be better.
8. You don't trust each other
Trust is a huge part of any relationship, and if you don't have it, there's definitely a problem.
9. Friends and family express concerns
Your friends and family can often see things you can't, so it's important to listen to them. They care enough about you to say something, so don't take it lightly.
10. You can't do anything right
You could make a delicious four-course dinner every night, but your partner will get mad and ask why there aren't five-courses. If they're constantly criticising you and it's not constructive, your relationship isn't healthy.
Your partner should make you feel like you're on top of the world, not like you're insignificant.
12. They make you unhappy
You and your partner will disappoint each other and you'll have unhappy times, but you should be happy for the most part. If your partner constantly makes you unhappy or makes you feel like you're in danger, your relationship is toxic.
If you're in a toxic relationship, it's not too late to try to fix it. Talk with your significant other about the issues you're noticing, and if you're being abused in any way, it's perfectly OK to walk out. You deserve the very best.
Lindsey loves traveling and shopping, and her favorite place in the whole world is Disneyland. She also loves spending time with her family and cute husband. She is studying Professional and Technical Writing and is part of the content team for FamilyShare.