7 ways to give your husband what he needs the most

You can help your husband attain what he needs most simply by discovering his hidden desires.

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  • We all have needs - needs that must be met to have healthy, happy, well-rounded lives. Women are typically vocal about their needs; however, men tend to hide, dismiss, or ignore their needs. Unfortunately, unmet needs can lead to stress, anxiety, unhappiness and burnout.

  • The good news is that you can help your husband attain what he needs most in life simply by discovering his hidden desires. It is important for both partners to make gallant efforts to help satisfy each other's needs. Remember, all relationships take work and sacrifice. Therefore, it's important to acknowledge and respect your husband's needs - once you uncover them, of course.

  • Here are seven easy ways you can give your husband what he needs most:

  • 1. Excitement

  • Have you wondered if your husband is "bored" with your life together? In other words, would you classify your marriage as a major snoozefest? Well, maybe what your hubby needs most is a little excitement in his life. More so, maybe it's time you injected a little fun into both of your lives.

  • Fill this important need by going on a vacation to a place you've never been before or checking out local attractions you never got around to seeing. You could also learn a new hobby or skill together. Or add a little spice in the bedroom by trying something new. Surprise your hubby with something fun, exciting or sexy and he'll be thrilled!

  • 2. Reassurance

  • This may blow your mind, ladies, but sometimes your hubby just needs your reassurance. Men are often taught to be strong, confident and resilient, but the truth is, sometimes they need for someone, namely you, to tell them it's going to be OK. They also need encouragement and emotional support along with reassurance.

  • If your husband refuses to ask for it or acts as though he doesn't need it, it's a lie, because he really does need it - from you. We all need it from the people we love. You don't have to reassure your hubby daily, weekly or even monthly, but occasionally say something like, "Hey, honey, I think you should try it because I'm positive you will do well in it. This is your area, and there's no one better for the job than you."

  • 3. Sexual satisfaction

  • When was the last time you initiated sex with your hubby? You've probably heard this millions of times, but it's true - one of your hubby's innermost needs is sexual satisfaction. Accept it and embrace it, because it's not going anywhere. And guess who the provider of this sexual satisfaction is. You! So if you want to fulfill this need, put in a little extra effort to entice him in the bedroom.

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  • The build-up of excitement, the closeness you feel during intimacy and the lingering feelings of happiness afterwards are the most important part. So the next time you are sitting on the couch watching television with your husband, nuzzle his neck or kiss his cheek.

  • 4. Freedom

  • Yes, one of things your hubby needs most is ... freedom. Just because you are married now doesn't mean you have to forfeit who you were before marriage. In other words, you don't have to give up the things you like simply because you've added another person to the equation.

  • It's imperative that you retain your individuality and independence if you want a long-lasting marriage. So the next time your partner tells you he wants to go out with friends or spend time watching television alone, give him space. Don't nag, fuss or complain. Rather, be happy for him and encourage him to have fun. One of the best ways to give your spouse what he needs most is to release him.

  • 5. Affection

  • Everyone needs affection - even your hubby (even if he doesn't act like it). When you are affectionate with your partner, it provides him with a sense of comfort, love, relationship security and approval - elements of a happy and successful relationship.

  • Affection conveys your warm regard for him. In other words, it says, "I love you. You are important to me, and I will always be there for you."

  • Fill this need by giving your partner a hug after a long day, slipping sweet or sexy notes into his briefcase or jacket pocket, holding his hand as you walk together, giving him a sensual back rub when he's tense or surprising him with lots of kisses.

  • 6. Attraction

  • Let's be real, one of the reasons your hubby married you was because he found you attractive. Maybe the attraction stemmed from your physical appearance, or maybe it was your bright mind that attracted him to you. Regardless, something drew him to you. One of the best ways to remedy this need is to remain attractive.

  • In other words, don't let yourself go simply because you are married now. Keep your mind sharp, keep yourself clean, exercise and maintain a healthy diet. Make an extra effort to "wow" your hubby - do your hair, put on some make-up and dress up in a cute outfit when you go out. Look and be your best for your partner to satisfy this need.

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  • 7. R&R (respect and recognition)

  • Most men love R&R (a.k.a. respect and recognition). They want your approval and appreciation. They want you to look up at them with regard and wonder. To meet this important need for your husband, give him attention, admiration and respect.

  • Let him know you appreciate his love and everything he does for you daily. Tell him he's your provider - physically, emotionally, sexually and financially. Tell him that he's an amazing friend, partner, lover and person. But, most of all, acknowledge the small things he does for you - the things he doesn't think you notice.

  • A successful relationship involves two people who are completely dedicated to bettering each other and fulfilling each other's needs. Women, keep these seven needs in mind, and make sure they're met. And men, make sure you're meeting your wife's needs too! Because as we all know, a happy husband and wife makes a happy home.

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Dr. R.Y. Langham is a professional consultant for the Between Us Clinic. Dr. Langham holds a Master of Science in marriage and family therapy and a Ph.D in family psychology.

Website: https://www.betweenusclinic.com

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