You just had a breakup and "it's time to get back in the game again" - at least that's what all your friends tell you. As you redownload your dating app, there's a part of you that is hesitant. It feels like you failed, and it's difficult to get back up again.
Dating is hard, and settling for your ex seems like a great way to go to get out of dating. But you deserve better than just settling. Even though dating is awkward at first, finding the right person makes all the hardship worth it. So let us help you get through the uncomfortable first step and find someone you'll love.
There are many apps and tools you can use to connect with people from far away. Long-distant relationships are tough, and they're even harder if you don't ever have the chance to talk face-to-face. In order to get to know someone, you need to experience what they are like in person.
2. Dress up a little bit
Comb you hair, brush your teeth and put on a cute outfit! These are simple things, but it's amazing how burdensome they are after a long day at work. It always seems like the easier thing to do would be just go as you are, but it's important to show the other person that you are trying to put your best foot forward.
3. Be confident
Being confident is different than being full of yourself. When you are confident you aren't begging for attention or only talking about yourself. Confidence means knowing you are a great person. Just remember that you are worth it!
4. Take risks
Sometimes we refuse to try new things, but dating is all about new experiences (however, don't take risks with your safety)! Take risks with your feelings; let others have a chance. Focus on having fun and getting to know the other person.
5. Engage and share
Sometimes we seal our hearts up and don't let others in to avoid getting hurt. When you are dating, it is important to give people a chance. Try sharing things that are close to your heart. Engage in conversations and ask some deep questions.
It's easy to judge a person by one experience, but we never want someone to judge us by meeting us one time. Give the other person the benefit of the doubt and try again. Who knows - you might have a better second date!
7. Get out there
It's easy to complain about nothing happening in your dating life, but it's hard to admit that you might be partly at fault. Put yourself out there, whether it's on an app, at a party or by agreeing to be set up! You are never going to win the game if you refuse to play.
If you feel ready to start dating again, go for it! We all live and learn when dating. Take your past experiences (whether good or bad), learn from them and keep going. You'll find your match when the time is right.
Christa is a part time photographer, part time writer and full time lover of life. She loves eating chocolate chip cookies and singing (but not at the same time). She has her degree in political science.