There is no denying that confidence is an attractive quality. Women like confident men and men like confident women. For some reason, however, we as women struggle to find our own confidence. We have a selfish tendency to look to others and compare their strengths to our own weaknesses.
That's the last thing we should be doing. As women, we should recognize our strengths and use them to build up our self-confidence, rather than compare ourselves one with another. After all, a confident woman is an attractive woman.
There are many ways to achieve confidence, but all stem from these six rules:
1. Have a "glass half-full" mentality
Being optimistic isn't always easy - that's why you start with the little things. When you have a pessimistic thought, look on the bright side. The more you start looking for the positive things in life, the brighter your mood will become. You'll feel lighter and happy because you won't be carrying the weight of unnecessary worry and fear. Optimism and confidence go hand in hand.
There is nothing more confident than standing up for what you believe in. If you believe in something, stand firm in it. Don't turn your back. A confident woman will not lower her standards for anyone - a worthy man will find that to be an attractive quality.
Standing up for your beliefs goes hand in hand with keeping promises and not judging or belittling someone else. Do your best to be kind and love everyone you meet and see your confidence soar.
3. Start small and work your way up
Do you tend to have lofty goals? (Don't we all?) The key to achieving those lofty goals is by starting small and breaking up your big goals into a series of little accomplishments. With each goal you achieve, you're one step closer to accomplishing the goals you really want. As you work your way up, your confidence will grow stronger and so will your attractiveness to others.
4. Get organized
The key here is finding that balance in your life allows you to fulfill the things you most want to do. Do whatever you can to organize your life (whether it's cleaning your room, your workspace, streamlining your morning routine, altering your social media habits, or other things) so they stop distracting you from the person you want to become. Cutting out the negative, disorganized parts of your routine will only help you to feel more in control of your life and your own self-confidence.
Nothing expresses your confidence more than wearing something you love and know you look good in. Rather than chilling in your sweats all day, find an outfit that you love and wear it proudly. It's OK to put in a little extra time in the morning to make yourself look good if it makes you feel good.
Knowing who you are is a constant learning process. As time passes and trials happen, you learn lots of new things about yourself. Don't let these opportunities to get to know yourself better pass you by; the more you learn about yourself, the more you come to understand who you are and who you want to become. That confidence translates into attractiveness.
If you know who you are and what you want, the happier you'll be in life.
Callie has two Bachelor of Arts degrees in English and Communication and when she isn’t writing, she’s reading. Some of her favorite things include Harry Potter, all things Disney, road trips, and telling stories.