Tips for new moms (and old ones, too)

There are so many different ways to be a good mom. Here are tips on how to do your own research, learn from other's experiences, make your own decisions and avoid becoming caught up in the Mommy Wars.

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  • I’ve always wanted to be a mom. When I was 7, my dad built a fantastic playhouse for my sister and me. I remember spending hours and hours playing “house” and dreaming about having my own kids and decorating my own home someday. I won’t claim that it’s something every little girl wishes for and dreams about. But I do believe that every woman has within her a desire to create and do something worthwhile in her life. Motherhood is a significant way to fulfill those desires.

  • Today, I find myself the mother of two young children. Overall, I love being a mother. But sometimes it’s downright hard. There are so many differing opinions about everything from pregnancy, labor and delivery to daycare, diet and TV time. And people feel passionately about each topic. So how is a mom supposed to know who to trust and what to do?

  • Do your own research

  • Read opinions and gather information. The Internet provides countless resources on every topic. As you read and study, look for the things that stand out as most important and applicable to you in your situation. When you find articles you like or people who share your same opinions save them. Pinterest is a great place for collecting and organizing information that you may want to use at a later time.

  • Surround yourself with good friends whom you trust and can learn from

  • Share your concerns and questions with other mommies. Seek out seasoned moms who have similar values and priorities. Glean from their experiences. Be aware that moms often feel passionate about certain topics. Whether you agree with them or not, they are likely sharing with you what has worked for them because they care about you and want to help. Avoid being offended by zealous mothers who eagerly share their opinions.

  • Learn from the bad examples, too

  • Don’t be afraid to make judgment calls about choices other people make. Recognize the behaviors or choices that you don’t wish to be a part of so that you can actively avoid doing those things. This can be a tricky one. You may not know the special circumstances or reasoning behind what someone does, but you can make the call about how those decisions fit into your family’s life. There is great value in identifying and learning from the decisions of others.

  • Talk with your spouse

  • Include your spouse in your parenting decisions. Ask for his opinion and respect his input. Do this parenting thing together.

  • Experiment and adapt

  • When it comes right down to it, just jump in and go for it. Some things will work, some won’t. Go ahead and adapt to what is best for your family. Don’t forget to look to God as you try to figure things out. Go to him in prayer, and he’ll be there to guide you.

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  • Refrain from criticizing other mothers

  • Motherhood (or parenting, in general) is challenging enough without creating problems by criticizing others. As moms, we can all use a little more encouragement. Strive to be a mommy that sees the good in others.

  • So far, motherhood has been a terrific ride. For me, it is just getting started. There’s a lot to know, and there aren’t many perfect answers. However, there’s no arguing about one thing, love and smiles go a long way.

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Natalie Porter is a rancher's wife, mother of two boys and a stay-at-home mom. She is always trying to understand how to be a better wife, mother and homemaker. She loves to cook good food, experiment with quilting, and is currently learning more about natural home remedies to take care of her family.


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