There is so much pressure on young girls and women to be the "perfect" size and shape. This leads to frustration, disappointment, and poor body image because most people can't attain what Photoshop has to offer.
We all come in different heights, weights, and body types, though the media seems to only highlight a certain body shape and size. What may be healthy for one person is not healthy for another. Not only that, but regardless of our size, we are all beautiful even if unattainable beauty standards printed on magazines say otherwise.
One husband has a powerful message for other men about women, particularly about "curvy" females.
Robbie Tripp, husband and TEDx speaker, recently spoke out on Instagram about his wife, Sarah. He begins by saying his friends used to tease him as a teenager because he liked girls a little "on the thicker side."
"[A]s I became a man and started to educate myself on issues such as feminism and how the media marginalizes women by portraying a very narrow and very specific standard of beauty (thin, tall, lean) I realized how many men have bought into that lie," said Tripp on his Instagram post.
Tripp brings up an excellent point: by judging a woman (or man) based on strictly looks, people miss out on completely wonderful, good people. Everyone has talents, skills, perspectives, personalities and other traits not related to looks that make the world a fabulous place to live.
Leaving it to the media to define beauty and a person's worth is the worst thing we can do to humanity.
What makes a person attractive?
Personally, here's what Tripp says about his wife, "there is nothing sexier than this woman right here: thick thighs, big booty, cute little side roll, etc. Her shape and size won't be the one featured on the cover of Cosmopolitan but it's the one featured in my life and in my heart."
But Tripp doesn't only focus on the physical - he also adds confidence on his list of why he loves his wife. What make someone attractive is different to everyone, but there are some fundamental elements everyone looks for:
Do they treat others with kindness and compassion?
Do they look for the positive most of the time?
Do they have integrity?
Do you enjoy similar activities or hobbies?
Are they fun to be around?
How do you feel when you are around them?
Are they open and honest in conversations with you?
We need to be more realistic with ourselves and others when it comes to beauty. Tripp focused his Instagram post on the unrealistic standards men expect from the girls they date and marry: "Guys, rethink what society has told you that you should desire. A real woman is not a [pornography] star or a bikini mannequin or a movie character. She's real. She has beautiful stretch marks on her hips."
He also sends a powerful message to all females: "Girls, don't ever fool yourself by thinking you have to fit a certain mold to be loved and appreciated. There is a guy out there who is going to celebrate you for exactly who you are, someone who will love you like I love my Sarah."
The value of a person should never be based on their looks. Yes, we need to seek out a healthy-for-you lifestyle, but don't try to squeeze yourself into a one-size-only-fits-a-few standard of beauty. Be your own kind of beautiful. Your uniqueness makes you beautiful. Just be you and worry about improving things that actually matter.
Wendy is a regular contributor for familyshare.com and does media reviews. Website: https://survivorshopeandhealing.wordpress.com/ for victims of sexual abuse. Blog: https://wendyejessen.wordpress.com Twitter: @WendyJessen