Most newly married women take pride in being a wife. A joyous journey with her life partner brings a lot of challenges and wisdom, and who wouldn't want to share their many life lessons?
Well, sometimes all that excitement can turn sour when your group of girls has heard and had enough. It might be time to take that hint that all your marriage talk is crowding out your girlfriends. Here are five signs you're the annoying married friend.
1. You always say, "When are you getting married?"
Asking others when they're getting married is a touchy subject. Even with the best intentions, incessantly asking this question becomes irritating. It can even lean into insulting territory. It's a deeply personal question that not everyone is apt to answer so abruptly.
Not everyone plans on getting married. Some may want to marry but don't have any prospects. Others could be in a relationship with someone who doesn't want to commit. While you're overjoyed in your wedded bliss, asking others about their plans can come off as intrusive and insensitive.
2. You single-shame
If the words, "Well, since you're not married," and "You don't understand marriage," leave your lips a lot, you're probably thatfriend. You may not directly cut someone down for being single, but you definitely rub it in that they're not married.
If the topic of conversation is relationships and the differences between marital and romantic issues arise, then there's a bit more leeway. But these phrases often emerge without provocation when a woman obsesses over her relationship status.
3. You talk about marriage all the time
On the heels of frequently bringing up another's single status, that annoying friend will also talk about marriage incessantly. Their own, other people's, the idea in general - it doesn't matter. If it has to do with the ball and chain it's fair game. There doesn't seem to be anything else on your mind.
And the worst part is you probably don't notice it, but to the outside world it's as if you have nothing else to say.
4. You give unsolicited marriage advice
Giving romantic advice that isn't wanted or asked for is a problem on its own. But when you're giving unsolicited marriage advice, it just sounds pretentious. The same goes for a newlywed talking to a longtime couple, or an older generation advising a younger one. Each pairing is unique and each generation deals with its own issues.
You probably don't understand the full context of what another couple is going through. Your marriage probably isn't perfect, so be careful about opening your relationship up to scrutiny. Unless your friend asks you for your thoughts, it's best to keep them quiet.
This one is simple. If you say "my husband" a lot, just stop. We get it, you're married. We see the rings, we saw the pictures and we see your husband. Talk to your friends about you and ask about them.
Being married is certainly exciting. Wanting to share your joy with others is fine. But on your island of wedded bliss it's important to look around and see if anyone else is looking for an escape.