You dread family gatherings or get-togethers with friends because you know the question is coming: "What is taking you so long to have a baby?"
It didn't bother you the first few times; but after a while, the question becomes overbearing.
Personally, the question upsets me. The topic becomes uncomfortable when people say how much my husband and I are missing out on by not being parents. They say I'm selfish, and insist on pursuing the conversation.
Having children is a personal decision. Here are a few things to keep in mind when the topic arises:
Some women can't have children
Often, insisting on a private matter only hurts the woman who desperately wants to bring a blessing into this world, but for one reason or another cannot. The constant questioning, pushy attitude and frowning down at a woman for not having a child is disrespectful.
Some women are simply not ready
For some, not having children has nothing to do with losing their figure or a lack of funds. Some women are simply not emotionally or mentally prepared. Having a child solely because of others' pressure to do so would be irresponsible.
Mayra Colón is a freelance writer, former independent author and avid reader. She holds a MBA from the University of Phoenix and completed the Freelance Writing and Selling Online course from Rutgers University of Arts and Sciences.