Losing a loved one is never easy, but it's something we all have to go through. It's hard to see someone grieving, and when it happens, our first instinct is to do everything we can to make it better.
While this is appreciated, there are certain things you shouldn't say to that person in their time of grief, even if you think it might help:
1. I know exactly how you feel
Even if you've been through a similar situation, you don't know exactly how this person feels because they had a completely different relationship than you did. Don't be afraid to offer advice if you've been through something similar, but don't say you know exactly how they feel.
It's heartbreaking when a pet passes away, and it's common to go through a grieving period. However, a pet is a lot different than a person, and your friend who lost someone close to them won't appreciate it if you compare their loss of a husband or child to your loss of a pet.
3. Let me know if you need anything
People don't like to feel vulnerable, and it can be especially difficult for people to ask for help even when they need it. If someone's grieving, there's always something you can do, whether it's taking over a plate of food, mowing their lawn or cleaning their kitchen. If you have specific ways to help, offer a hand and make sure to follow through.
4. At least ...
At least you can remarry, at least he died doing something he loved or at least she's in a better place sound like great things to say, but they can actually be damaging. Phrases like these offer a solution to their situation, when in reality, you can't just fix what happened. Offer a listening ear and a helping hand instead, but don't undermine their feelings by trying to say the circumstance of their death actually has a silver lining.
When someone is grieving, they have a hard time thinking about life without their loved one. Although things will get easier and life will go on, you never forget a loved one who passed away and it's important to recognize that this person will always be a part of their life. Let your friend talk through their feelings and help them cope in the best way for them.
When I was in high school, my friend's mom passed away unexpectedly. When I heard the news I was heartbroken for her, but I was so nervous to see her. I didn't know what to say, and I didn't want to make anything worse by saying something wrong.
It's hard to know exactly what to say to someone who's grieving. You want to be sensitive and helpful, but you don't want to overstep your boundaries. While you think it might be easier just to say nothing, your friend will really appreciate any support you can give.
No matter what, your friend who lost a loved one wants to feel love and support. While it's important to be sensitive to what they're feeling, don't be afraid to listen to them, offer help wherever they need or want it and just be there for them.
Lindsey loves traveling and shopping, and her favorite place in the whole world is Disneyland. She also loves spending time with her family and cute husband. She is studying Professional and Technical Writing and is part of the content team for FamilyShare.