In a marriage, it's not always easy to establish a relationship that's full of love, passion and commitment every single day. But there are steps you can take to help make you spouse as happy as possible.
Communication with your spouse is very important. Some couples believe their relationship will always be great because they have had a few good years together. However, time does not determine happiness - it requires continual actions, love and dedication from both partners.
Some women prefer to keep their feelings to themselves because they don't really seem to matter to their spouse. But that's not true! When your partner's actions are making you unhappy, it's time to speak up.
If you're the hubby in this relationship, there are things you could be doing to make your wife unhappy:
1. You don't pay attention
When you get home after a long day's work, all you want to do is relax, watch TV and sleep. This behavior is very normal but focusing on your relationship with your wife should be your priority.
Women start to become unhappy when their partner does not pay attention to them. This happens when you choose TV, your cell phone or anything else over spending quality time with your wife.
The key to a good relationship is communication. Spend time talking with your wife and finding ways to strengthen your relationship will make you both happy.
2. You don't value her opinion
It's important for men to be able to make big decisions for the well-being of their family, but it's equally important to know how to take their wife's opinion into account.
Listen to your wife's solutions, opinions and strategies to overcome everyday problems. Let her participate in the decision making, from the less relevant ones (like choosing a restaurant for dinner) to the more important ones (like a career path). Trust her and notice that your life becomes much easier when she's happy.
3. Things are always the same
After the honeymoon stage is over, routine takes over the relationship and you have no desire to try new things. This complacency can make anyone unhappy, so don't let routine create unhappiness in your marriage. Spend time with your wife, set new challenges, accomplish new goals and start new adventures. Enjoy the scenery, go for a walk, go fishing, visit an amusement park or cook together to spice up your routine.
There's a lot of strengthening that goes into a relationship when you two can share new experiences together. Try new things and you and your wife will both be happier for it.
4. Making commitments without talking to her about them
As a man who works all day, you may have many social commitments; However, if you do not include your wife in your plans, she will feel excluded and rejected.
Balance your social events and try to invite your wife to come along, otherwise making plans without her will make her (and you) unhappy.
5. Lack of romance
Physical contact every day is important to any relationship. To see your wife smile, take her by the hand, caress her hair, give her flowers, hide chocolates around the house, send her affectionate messages and give her a massage.
If you have a hard time saying "I love you", do it in different ways. Write it in a note or sent it over text. Either way, your wife wife will feel loved and desired when she feels loved.
6. Being reckless with your finances
Organize your payments and your entire financial situation for a happy wife. If you don't work on getting out of debt, your wife is going to be unhappy. Do what's best for the both of you by being smart when it comes to money.
Women have a lot to worry about on a daily basis: taking care of the children, going out to work and still taking care of the house is very tiring. Share the responsibilities of the home and see the your wife's unhappiness melt away.
Identify the needs of your wife and talk to her about what she needs to be happier with your marriage. You both will have a much better relationship if you and your wife are happy.
Adriana Acosta studied communication, is the mother of a teenager, and is currently engaged in teaching and research on a university level in Puerto Vallarta. She publishes his writings in hopes to help people.