Happily ever after sure does sound awesome. Too bad it doesn't exist. Most girls grow up believing that fairly tale. We've watched one too many Disney movies, and tend to believe that when we get married all of our dreams will come true.
After the wedding comes a life full of craziness. It can be wonderful if we know how to handle it, but too often we bring our own expectations to the relationship and are disappointed when they aren't met. Believing the lies we tell ourselves about love and relationships can lead us down a scary path, one that makes us believe we just don't love him anymore.
Here are five ridiculous lies that will make us believe we don't love our husband.
1. Love is a feeling
Love is so much more than a feeling. It's an action that has to be repeated day in and day out in a marriage. It's also a choice you must make on a daily basis. There are definitely feelings that come along with love, but sometimes they wax and wane. When we realize that and choose to love no matter what, our perspective on love starts to change for the better.
2. I married the wrong person
Let's get this out of the way. There's no such thing as "Mr. Right." If you feel like you married the wrong person, chances are you aren't being the right person. We have no control over our spouse, but we do have control over ourself. When we put aside selfishness and start doing little things to show our man how much we love and appreciate him, he will more than likely begin to do the same.
3. I deserve to be happy
Happiness is a touchy subject. No one can be happy 24/7. What we can do is choose to have joy and be content in any situation. When we put all the pressure on our significant other to make us happy, we are setting them up for failure. He is only human, and so are you.
Marriage, kids, bills, homework, dishes, early mornings, late nights, repeat. Any two people could be incompatible under these extremely stressful circumstances. It's so important to carve out time to be alone with your husband. This is where we build compatibility. When you share experiences with him, you are building moments that you can look back on when life gets hectic. It reminds you how much you love him even on days when you aren't feeling compatible.
We've all heard the saying, "The grass is always greener on the other side." It's easy to think that there is something better out there for us, especially when things aren't going well. The truth is, marriage is difficult no matter who you choose to share it with. If we put in the work though, we can make the grass green in our marriage too.
Heather Dennie is a happily married Jesus lovin' mama of 3. She teaches high school and loves all things creative. She uses her creativity to love others, teach, write, and design and create happy things at