We've all been there. Sending a dreaded text message to the man you really like. Sometimes your crush will respond right away, but what if he never answers you? What do you do then? What does it mean? Does he not like you?
The fact of the matter is, you may never know the answer. But, there are three things you should do and three things you should never do when your crush doesn't respond:
Things you should never do:
1. Keep texting him
He isn't going to respond only because you sent him 60 text messages in a row. In fact, you will probably give him "needy" vibes if you continue to text him without any response at all. You don't want the man you're crushing on to think you're crazy, so keep it simple. Send one text and if he doesn't respond, leave it at that. If you want to be certain he got your text, wait a few days and send another text - but don't send one right after another.
It's really easy to get frustrated when he isn't responding to you. Your head swims with all sorts of questions and possible answers and about 98 percent of them are negative. Whatever you do, don't lose your mind because he isn't texting you back. There's no reason to get angry or frustrated just because a guy doesn't respond to your well-thought-out text message. Just take a deep breath and step back to analyze your situation.
3. Wait around for him to text back
We carry our cell phones everywhere we go. Literally, everywhere. So when you send a really bold text to your crush, your anxiety is obviously at an all-time high. Do yourself a favor and don't stare anxiously at your cell phone for hours just waiting for a response. It's unhealthy for your heart and soul. Do yourself a favor and put your phone away, turn it off or leave it at home and go out and do something for yourself.
Things you should do:
1. Remember your own self-worth
More than anything else in the world, your self-worth matters a billion times more than a text message from your crush. Don't compare yourself to others or put yourself down because you don't look or act like "other girls." You are a beautiful, smart, amazing woman whose self-worth doesn't need to be validated by a text message. Love yourself first and some handsome guy out there will adore your confidence and love you the way you are.
While it's certainly easier to text him, you're guaranteed to get a response if you talk to him in person. Sure, it's scary to talk to your crush face to face, but you'll get much better results if you do. Not only will the response be immediate, but you can strike up a conversation and get to know him in person. Besides, if the subject matter is serious, why would you want to talk through text anyway? Talk to him in person! It's not as intimidating as it sounds.
3. Carry on with your life
Send the text and leave it at that. Response or no response, you will move on with your life. Continue being you and doing the things you love. Your life shouldn't be determined by a simple text message from a boy. Life is all about adventure and learning and finding your purpose. And ultimately, more guys will notice you when you're happy, confident and in your element. Just be yourself!
Callie has two Bachelor of Arts degrees in English and Communication and when she isn’t writing, she’s reading. Some of her favorite things include Harry Potter, all things Disney, road trips, and telling stories.