12 things to never say to pregnant women

Despite your best intentions, you are actually hurting her at her most fragile time.

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  • Pregnant women are constantly receiving remarks about this new and exciting chapter in her life. Some are positive and encouraging. Others are unflattering and hurtful.

  • Most people aren't intentionally mean, insensitive or inappropriate but comments can easily come across the wrong way to a woman carrying a child. She can't jump off the hormonal rollercoaster until after the baby is born so don't be insensitive!

  • Here are 12 things pregnant women do not want to hear about their pregnancy:

  • It's not physically possible to swallow a watermelon, so don't even joke about it. Compliment her and tell her she looks beautiful from the motherly glow she has.

  • She already knows. Don't rub it in! Let her enjoy the sleep she has left, not dread the sleep she is about to miss out on.

  • Not every person who looks "big" is going to have twins. Instead, ask and offer help if she needs it.

  • It isn't any of your business if she is going to stay home with her baby or return to work. Every parenting style is different - one is not right and the other wrong.

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  • Having a baby is an exciting time. Derogatory comments about how life is over after having a kid do not settle well with happy mothers. Instead, ask what exciting things they are planning after baby comes.

  • That's personal...

  • Maybe they are just excited to have a baby, and the gender doesn't matter. If they were hoping for a specific gender and but are expecting another, there might be a little tension to be worked out.

  • That's more than a little personal and it's the mother's choice. Not all women can breastfeed or have their own reasons for not wanting to.

  • Telling a pregnant woman what they shouldn't do or eat is not your responsibility.

  • This makes the expecting mother feel huge and frustrated. Some people carry babies differently and look bigger early on. Hearing you are "ready to pop" at six months is discouraging.

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  • Chances are, she doesn't want to hear that you didn't have morning sickness or had an easy delivery. She has heard a lot of other women's stories and is trying to focus on her own pregnancy. Sharing your own experience is welcome if she asks.

  • Going in for the Buddha belly rub is intrusive. If she wants you to feel the baby kick, she will offer.

  • Uplift her during this stressful time by finding a unique way to help her or compliment her. She will appreciate your positive words after hearing many negative remarks. Let her know she's loved and will be an amazing mother.

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Kristina Tieken is a staff writer for FamilyShare, public relations specialist with a love for the fine arts, food and exercise. She enjoys watching movies and spending time with her husband and family.

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