How to let go of a good guy to find the right guy

Is your man the right guy or just a good guy? Here is a guide to realizing when you have the right guy and how to break up with the good guy.

17,833 views   |   43 shares
  • You are dating a good man. He loves you. He is open with you. He lifts you up when you are sad. He has a few bad habits but his qualities more than make up for it. You know he will always take care of you, but you question if he's really the one.

  • You know you are dating the right guy when you feel and know these five things

  • 1. He is a man

  • A man - not a boy - will be emotionally available, faithful and complimentary. He will lift you up, hold you, keep you safe, introduce you to their family and friends and treat you with respect. He is trustworthy. He is mature and knows that spending time apart is okay, but he adores spending time with you.

  • 2. There is physical, emotional and intellectual attraction

  • Attraction is key in all three of these areas. When you can communicate in a physical, emotional and intellectual way, your relationship will be stronger.

  • 3. You can see yourself getting married to him

  • Good guys often hit point number one and have a certain level of at least one type of the three attractions mentioned above, but you have to see the relationship progress if he's the right guy. If you can't see yourself in white by his side, he's not the one for you.

  • 4. The spark never leaves the relationship

  • Having that initial spark throughout your whole relationship will keep you focused on him and only him. You will not care about other men because you are completely fulfilled in your relationship with your mister. The two of you are still attracted to each other even after a fight or spending time away. When you think about him, you should smile.

  • 5. You help each other grow and improve

  • The right guy will help you improve. He will encourage you to be and do your best. He will support your dreams and ambitions - and you will do the same for him. He will consider your needs and wants to be more important, and you will considerhis needs and wants to be more important. As you grow together, your relationship will never feel stagnant.

  • If you are dating the wrong guy, follow these six tips

  • 1. Break up with him

  • Simple, right? Not a chance. You feel secure with your man. You know by breaking up with him you are going to have to jump into the dating pool and might get hurt. Your family may pressure you to stay with him, but don't listen. This is better in the long run.

  • Advertisement
  • 2. Talk to him frankly about your feelings

  • Men know more than we realize. They can often tell when something about the relationship is off. Explain how you feel. He might be hurt, but he also might agree. Talking to him before he goes down on one knee to propose is better for both of you.

  • 3. Say no if he proposes

  • You don't want to embarrass him, right? Wouldn't it be easier to just say yes? Don't fall into that trap! It's more embarrassing to plan the wedding, pay for the venue, send out the invites and then realize you don't want to get married to him at all. So gather your courage and say "no" now.

  • 4. Don't say "It's not you, it's me"

  • This is the oldest breakup line in the world. Men and women equally use it as a way to make their breakup easier on the person who's heart is being broken, but it often backfires. Instead of saying this cliché, explain your thoughts and feelings behind the breakup. He will be hurt and upset, but at least he'll know the exact reasons why your relationship is over.

  • 5. Don't let him guilt trip you

  • Men recognize when they are dating a good woman and don't want to be without her. This realization may cause him to say something like "You can grow to love me". And that may be true; You could possibly grow to love him. However, if you feel that you should break up, then do it. Don't let his words overshadow your gut feeling.

  • 6. Don't cheat on him

  • Sometimes you might not realize you are cheating. You start by actively looking at other men and considering if they would be a good boyfriend. Right then and there, you are breaking your unspoken commitment of faithfulness to your boyfriend. If you have the right guy you won't feel the need to look outside your relationship for more fulfillment.

  • It's hard to let go of a good guy, but if he isn't the right one it will be better for the both of you to break up now. Give every relationship with a good guy a chance, but don't be afraid to break up when you realize he is not the one for you.

Want uplifting and insightful stories in your inbox?

Read it, live it, share it!

Stacie Simpson is a FamilyShare staff writer. She loves listening to, gathering and sharing stories and advice to help others improve their quality of life. She spends most of her free time with her husband, ballroom dancing, reading and writing.

9 ways your husband will change when he becomes a dad

Every woman needs to be aware of the ways her husband will change when he becomes a father.

Advertisement
Tell us your opinion
 

Thanks for subscribing to our email list. Please enjoy our latest articles.

tumblr