Things tend to happen when you least expect them to, including the painful things as well. When you realize your husband is not in love with you anymore, you are left with a painful and lonesome feeling.
You ask yourself a million questions, where did I go wrong? Why did this happen to me? No amount of thoughts can salvage a man who has fallen completely out of love with his wife.
For that reason, you need to be aware of what signs to look for in a husband who seems to be acting unusual compared to his natural identity:
1. He leaves you on the backburner
When his focus relocates to other hobbies or he takes more interest in his work then you, it could be a dead giveaway that he is falling out and away from you. A man in love makes you the priority, but if he is putting other parts of his life at the frontline rather then you, make time to talk with your husband and figure out why he is behaving oddly.
2. Eye contact
They say eyes are the window into the soul. When your husband no longer can hold a gaze, it might be because he feels you will see the truth of your relationship at hand. Next time you try to hold a conversation with your husband take note of how often he makes eye contact with you, if he can hold a gaze then most likely you have nothing to be concerned over.
3. Initiation is lost
He no longer initiates anything of a physical nature with you. Not a kiss, no holding hands, not even a simple hug. You are left to be the initiator, and this alone can leave you with a strong sense of where your relationship stands. At no time should one partner decide to quite reassuring the other of their affection.
If he is always out and never home, if he seems to be making up an excuse all the time about why he will be coming home late then it could be for an obvious reason. A man in love wants to be with the woman he adores. A man out of love will stretch the distance with him and his partner.
5. Emotionally disconnected
If you ever feel the urge to confront him about his erratic behavior and he continues to distance himself and avoid an emotional talk it could be one of two things: he either is simply a man that does not want to get sensitive and speak about his emotions, or he is afraid to hurt your feelings and admit the truth or that he no longer loves you. Regardless, this matter needs to be confronted at one point or another.
There is positive criticism that can help you learn and grow to be better. Then there is negative criticism where a person mocks your own innate being. Meaning if your husband complains about something ridiculous, such as the way you brush your teeth, and it sincerely disgusts him, that is searching for criticism that he does not like about you. He does it to ease the guilt he feels over not loving you anymore. Instead, a man should search for the attributes that he loves in you and choose to ignore the nitpicky things.
He simply just puts no effort into anything that has to do with you and on so many sad occasions that does include even abandoning you and your children. It is in these times when you realize these are the things you need to grow stronger. If he fell out of love, he should end it correctly and not with you searching and looking for the signs of his distance.
Liset was raised in Panama but now calls Florida home. She graduated in communications and is now working towards her master's degree. Liset is very outspoken and outgoing. She enjoys anything that involves the ocean, soccer or dancing.