The term argue has gotten a really bad name and I think it's because we don't see true arguments anymore. We see two people getting emotional about topics they disagree on. We see people offended and responding offended but that is not arguing.
Allow me to get nerdy for a second. Here is a little Latin lesson for you.
arbutus "clear, bright, distinct or penetrating."
argumentum "evidence of proof."
arguo "to prove or reveal."
If you have two people who "get it" then this is what will happen:
You will both bring your "evidence" that will "prove or reveal" why you think what you think. It truly can be that simple but our pride gets in our way many times. Oftentimes, our "proof" is based on subjective truth, filled with emotion and we simply refuse to hear the case of the other. Oftentimes, you know you are in a pissing match because they attack your character, your intelligence and your entire countenance.
It's a trap, don't fall for it.
It is so important for us to teach our children how to argue their case for Christ. It is important for them to understand what they believe, why they believe and how to articulate their thoughts. When we equip our children, they will grow confident in their thoughts and when confronted, as they will be eventually, our children will stand on their convictions, not kneel to the pressure.
A few weeks back, my daughter was put in a situation that most adults would be uncomfortable in. My daughter was able to argue, respectfully, her point. So from her argument, I will give you three reasons why our children need to be taught to argue.
1. It prepares them for the world
You won't be there when they go to college mom and dad. If you are, well, that's kinda creepy. There is nothing more frightening for a kid that has never learned the value of a good argument to hit their first college class and be slammed by an atheist professor. It happened to me. All I could say to his taunts was, "I have faith."
2. It prepares them for different view points, even in the Christian circle
How can you argue for something when you don't know what the "it" is? I see so many believers falling to false doctrine because they don't know what they believe and how to argue it. When they get into an argument, they have no idea how to defend it. Our children need a world view. Our children need to understand their viewpoint is not the only viewpoint. It will make them better arguers.
When you are taught to argue your point, it requires you to claim that information. I make my students teach my Rhetoric class, not because I'm evil (insert evil laugh here) but because I know when they take charge of the information, they own it and retain it.
Arguing is not a bad thing. It doesn't have to be mean-spirited. I posted a video on Facebook, sharing some of my political beliefs and a few other things. I had some praise me while others argued with me. It was a beautiful civil dialogue ... yet we all brought clear, precise evidence that we felt would prove our point. Today, we did not agree, but I know because of how we argued, with respect and dignity, truth will be found and God honored.
Editor's note: This article was originally published on Sarah West's website. It was republished here with permission.
Sarah is a Christian Author and Speaker. She wrote the parenting book, "Walking the Talk: A Parent's Guide to Intimacy and Healthy Relationships" and maintains the blog A Life Inspired. Her passion is to equip the next generation of families to speak boldly and walk confidently in their faith and charge as parents. You can stay up to date with Sarah on Facebook, Twitter and Pinterest.