Yes it happens, and yes it happens to a lot of people. Getting bored in marriages because they develop a routine and repeat it each and every day without planning different to break the cycle.
They wake up early, go to work, go grocery shopping, cook, clean and turn in for the night, and then the next day comes and they do the same things all over again. Now, there is nothing wrong with having a routine, but you do need to have some days where you shake things up.
Here are the top ways to spice up your marriage to get rid of the boredom:
1. Plan a vacation
A vacation could be just what your relationship needs to switch things up a bit. Yes it can be difficult with children and work, but if you truly care for your marriage and make it the priority, then you will take the time needed to plan one out. Plus, sipping a fruity drink on a warm beach sounds heavenly this winter season.
2. Start a show
Practically everyone owns a Hulu or Netflix account these days. Pick a show and start binging on it with your spouse. You could choose a comedy or a horror; they have practically anything. Whatever genre you and your significant other prefers, this will be the perfect way to always have something to get excited over and talk about.
3. Get out of your comfort zone
I'm assuming that in your marriage you try to have regular date nights, and this is one of the best things you can do together to spice things up. But, instead of the regular movie night change things up by getting out of your comfort zone. Try some karaoke or head to an aquarium. As long as you get more creative with your dates, it's a surefire way of getting some enthusiasm in your relationship.
It does not always need to necessarily be a present, just a simple surprise. Surprise your significant other by cooking their favorite meal, buy him tickets to his favorite concert. The little surprises keep things interesting. You will never know what to expect from your spouse and that brings unpredictability to your relationship, which definitely is not boring.
The thing about a bucket-list is that it's not only healthy for relationships to have them, but they give the marriage something to work towards and aspire to. So, on those long day where the kids are arguing and you can't seem to get anything right, just think of when you throw that dart at a map and travel to some far-off place. That will make all your hard work and patience worth it.
Acknowledge that boredom comes naturally in relationships, and there is not much you can do to avoid it. That's okay, as long as you are continually performing actions that show your spouse you like to go out and have fun. You are not a slave to your responsibilities and life is meant to be lived as fully as possible.
Try to think outside of the box. Do the unexpected. If you do, your spouse will come to appreciate that you do to try and show them you care for your marriage and are willing to do anything it requires to stay excited and happy in your relationship.
Liset was raised in Panama but now calls Florida home. She graduated in communications and is now working towards her master's degree. Liset is very outspoken and outgoing. She enjoys anything that involves the ocean, soccer or dancing.