Death is something that is unfortunately unavoidable for us all. Another unfortunate aspect is that everyone seems to sit on their deathbed with heavy regrets weighing them down. Life would be so much more enjoyable from the beginning to the end if we simply learned to enjoy ourselves, find peace and truly live in the time that has been given to us.
Here are the top 5 regrets of the dying and the solutions to avoid them:
1. Regret: Holding grudges
The most common regret for those who are at the end of their life is that not being able to forgive those who wronged them. They often wish they would have resolved the issues and matters sooner rather than later. They could have rekindled a friendship or a relationship with a family member with whom they had quarreled with for so long. They often reflect on so much wasted energy focusing on the wrongs that people caused them and their inability to move forward without the weight of a grudge on their shoulders.
Forgive others. Sometimes forgiveness is a long process that takes a significant amount of time until trust is rebuilt. Holding a grudge does nothing but enslave you in its clutches. The ability to forgive reflects a lot about who you are as a person. Even if you never receive an apology, moving on from the things in the past is one of the most uplifting and liberating decisions you can ever make.
2. Regret: Working too much
Those who are on the brink of their life coming to a close often mention regretting the high amount of work and less time spent playing in their lives. They regret missing out on valuable time and experiences with their family and amazing opportunities that slipped away from them because of the diligence and attention they had on their career. They mention giving up amazing experiences for the sake of their high-paying career.
Don't forget to take time for yourself. Money isn't everything. Have the courage and faith to set goals and pursue your dreams. A life full of material things is worth a lot less than to have lived a life full of adventure and experience. Life is to be enjoyed, not endured.
3. Regret: Time
Some years seem to take forever, but life is actually very short. One of the most frequent regrets in life is not spending one's time wisely. Whether it is neglecting time spent with loved ones or simply wasting the precious time they had.
Take a well-deserved break now and then to spend time with your loved ones and rejuvenate yourself. Save yourself from regrets by going on adventures or just enjoying a lazy day with your family. No matter how mediocre the day's plans are, spending the time with your family will bring nothing but positivity and happiness to your life.
4. Regret: Courage, or lack thereof
Many people are saddened that they were never able to stand up for themselves and be who they truly were. They lived their lives pleasing others and allowed society to decide how they acted, dressed and spoke. They gave up on their dreams because others told them they would never get off the ground. Others regret never being able to express their true feelings for the people they loved.
Fully express your individuality. Pursue your own goals and dreams even if others disagree with your choices in life. Do what you love to do without regrets, and don't shy away from your feelings. Have courage.
5. Regret: Happiness
Many people don't fully realize that happiness is a conscious choice until it is too late. So many people depend on others to bring them happiness and constantly wait for something to change in their life in order to find joy that never seems to come. So much time is wasted on waiting for the world to change.
You are in control of your happiness. You are truly the only thing in the universe that you have the power to control. Do not get wrapped up in high levels of anxiety and stress, and do not allow yourself to roam in sadness while waiting for someone else to make you happy. You are ultimately the only person who can make you happy. Choose happiness over doubt and be aware of the many blessings and joyous circumstances that surround you in life. Do what makes you happy.
Chakell Wardleigh has a Bachelor of Arts in English. She spends her days silently (mostly) correcting others' grammar. She adores all things nerd, such as Harry Potter, Star Wars, Lord of the Rings, Shakespeare, and anything else that whisks her away from reality. She currently works as an editor for the FamilyShare team. You can usually find her with her nose in a book, laughing too loudly, or belting out songs from Hamilton.