"Hate" is a strong word. But it might not be strong enough to adequately describe how much your husband cares for you. Yes, you read that last part right. Confused yet? Read on.
He may not always be the best at expressing it, but here are 10 things your husband absolutely hates:
1. He hates when you're in pain
When you're in pain, your husband is too - maybe even more so than you because he can't stand to see you suffering. He would change places with you in a heartbeat if he could. All he can do is try to help you get through whatever battle you're facing. Don't fight it alone. Let him be there for you.
Nothing cuts deeper than when a husband sees his wife cry. He's heard you silently sobbing in the bathroom when you think he's still asleep. He isn't. He knows how much you have on your plate and wants to reach out to you, but he doesn't always know how. Let him know what he can do to help lighten your load. If anything, cry together - never alone.
3. He hates when you're away from him
Your husband misses you like crazy when you're gone. He might not fess up to it, but it's true. He's constantly thinking about you when either of you has to go out of town. That's why his favorite part of each day is coming home.
After all, he married you for one main reason: because he wants to spend as much time with you as he can.
Your husband isn't with you because he thinks you're perfect; he's with you because he sees the potential you have. While you may be focused on your insecurities, he's focused on your strengths. He knows how great you are and it breaks his heart to see you lose confidence in yourself.
5. He hates when someone doesn't treat you right
Husbands are naturally protective. This is why it makes their blood boil to see someone take advantage of you or not treat you right. Sometimes this might even seem like a bigger deal to him than it is to you. Just know that he reacts this way because he loves you and can't understand why somebody would disrespect the most important person in his life.
6. He hates when you feel you have to become a different person in order to make him happy
Society is constantly feeding us false ideas of what the ideal wife or woman should be like. If you married the right guy, he won't expect you to live up to those fake standards. He loves you for who you are. He doesn't want you to transform into what you think he likes - into a completely different person. Just be yourself.
Your husband wants you to succeed and he hates it when things don't work out for you. Unlike anyone else, he sees all the time and effort you put into your various interests. He knows how hard you work.
Failure is part of life, but just remember that your husband is always there to help you try again.
8. He hates when you are ashamed of your body or don't feel pretty enough
Throughout their lives, women's bodies change in ways men can't even comprehend. This is especially true when children come into the picture. But believe it or not, your husband didn't just marry you for your body. He also fell in love with things like your sense of humor, your kind heart and the way you make him feel.
Sure, your husband notices and appreciates your desire to look and feel your best, but this isn't everything to him. He hates to see you compare yourself to other women or when you feel down about the way you look.
You're probably asking yourself, "If he hates it then why does he do it?" The truth is that most of the time he doesn't mean to. Like every human being (men especially), he doesn't always think before he speaks. If he does intentionally do or say something in the heat of the moment, he undoubtedly regrets it later. He knows he has your heart and the last thing he wants to do is break it.
10. He hates when you aren't happy
This entire list can be summed up into the only one true thing your husband hates: when you are unhappy. Period. As the central source of his happiness, he wants this same joy for you in your life. So give him a break the next time he messes up or does something dumb. All the things he truly hates show how much he really loves you.
Alex recently graduated with a degree in public relations and is now working as an intern helping to produce content for FamilyShare.com. Apart from writing, he enjoys sports, backpacking and spending time with his amazing family.