Trying to stay attractive to your husband might sound shallow, but for those who have happy marriages, the majority will tell you that it helps when both parties put effort in. Attractiveness doesn't mean high heels and two-hours' worth of makeup and hair. It means living a life that makes you confident, happy, and in turn, beautiful. Here are ten ways to do just that:
1. Be kind, always
Nothing is more attractive than a woman who loves others and is kind to all of those around her. Jealousy, rudeness, and cattiness are signs of an insecure and unhappy woman, which isn't attractive and doesn't shed much light.
2. Take time for you
The times you take out for yourself—bubble baths, jogs around the neighborhood, quiet time to read your favorite book—will make its way on to the inside and make you a more "glowing" version of yourself.
3. Wear what makes you feel good
We all hear the phrase that it's not about what's on the outside, it's about what's on the inside, which is often true. But something else that's actually true is that when we feel good about ourselves on the outside we tend to be happier and more confident. We tend to stand a little straighter. Wear those jeans that make you feel awesome and put on that red lipstick that makes you automatically smile more. Rock it- no matter what it may be.
Exercise isn't just about weight loss. Exercise keeps up your energy and keeps you youthful longer. It will also help you start your day out right and feel confident and ready to take on the day. Energy is attractive to anyone.
5. Drink lots of water
The key to smooth, radiant skin and great energy is all about your H2O intake, no matter what those commercials tell you with the fancy creams and cleansers. Keep a bottle of water by your side and take the time to drink at least 8 glasses full a day. Without water ,you'll feel fatigue, get dry skin or acne, and find yourself having incredible moodiness.
Just because you're married doesn't mean you have to stop flirting and being playful. Don't lose that spark- keep it fun.
7. Learn to let loose
Yes, you might be a mother and a wife and work 8 hours on top of it all. You've got a lot on your plate. But learning how to let loose and play when you get the chance is not only attractive to your husband, but good for your health and wellbeing. Take the time to play, to de-stress, and to just be.
Nothing is less attractive than insecurity. No more saying, "Do I look fat?"
Now that you're older and have had a couple of kids, you might have the stretch marks, the cellulite, the laugh lines, and the wider waist. But beauty evolves with age. Love where you're at, find the long-lasting beauty in the mirror, and accentuate your favorite features.
9. Laugh more
Aubrey Hepburn once said, "Happy girls are the prettiest girls." And it's so true. Everyone loves to see you smile and laugh, especially that husband of yours. Don't take life too seriously, and remember to smile. It'll make you feel a whole lot better too and change your perspective.
10. The little things matter-really, they do
I once dated a guy who told me that guys don't really notice the little things like highlights in hair or painted nails. But once I got married, my husband told me that's far from the truth. Of course guys notice, and it's attractive to see a woman take care of the little things like personal hygiene, painted nails, or plucked eyebrows. It all adds up to making you feel confident, fresh, and good.
When you feel good about yourself, that's when he takes notice.