Your spouse is OH-SO-GOOD-LOOKING! You know it. That is one of the many reasons you married her, right?
When making love, you need to see your spouse. Keep the lights on (or dimmed) so you can actually see, and enjoy, each other.
Really see your spouse. Take her in - not just her outer beauty but her inner beauty as well. See the good in her. See her potential. See her needs, thoughts, fears, struggles, dreams, hopes and joys.
Not only is your spouse good looking, but he also has feelings, needs and thoughts he wants to express. Listen to your spouse. He has a lot more to share than you realize.
Rub his back while you talk about the day and catch up. Sex is just as much about connecting emotionally as it is about connecting physically (especially for the ladies). And, connecting emotionally before making love will help you connect more deeply in physical ways (though, this sometimes works vice versa because some men feel close emotionally after being close physically).
Music can also help contribute to a romantic setting.
Oh, and then there's silence. Ladies, listen up. When it is time for making love, the time for talking is over (In other words, don't mention all those random thoughts that sometimes go through your head!). A little bit of silence is good for both you and your spouse. It allows you to focus on each other more completely.
This can make or break a romantic evening ... trust us.
Make sure to shower, shave and smell nice. Whatever your preference for cologne or perfume, something that smells attractive and manly/feminine is a great way to set the mood for healthy sex.
Feeling close to your one-and-only and being able to share physical touch is a wonderful thing.
We probably don't need to expound too much on this one, do we? The point is, because of the special relationship you share as husband and wife (and the promises you've made to each other), you can touch your spouse in ways no one else can or should.
It's not just about the physical high that comes from making love. It's about connection, cohesion and confidence. It's about trust and unity. It's about expressing love in the deepest of ways.
In other words, intimacy should invite a deeper, truer kind of love into your marriage. It should be a very positive, beautiful, fun and fulfilling thing. It should be something that's very special between the two of you as husband and wife. Sex should make both of you feel safe and secure and offer you and your spouse a way to share everything together.
Using your six senses will create a positive, fulfilling and romantic experience for you and your spouse when it comes to being intimate together. So, go nurture your marriage.
This article was originally published on Nurturing Marriage. It has been republished here with permission.
Aaron & April are the founders of Nurturing Marriage, a website dedicated to strengthening marriages. They enjoy playing football with their two little boys, watching sports, eating cereal late at night, and going out for frozen yogurt.