He's not interested? Here's every possible reason why

I'm not going to sugarcoat this, ladies.

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  • He doesn't want to be in a relationship and you don't know why. So you spend your restless nights with Ben and Jerry, wondering what's wrong.

  • Well, I've been a guy my whole life and I guarantee you that if he's not interested it's for at least one of these reasons. You may or may not agree with them. Some of them are cold, insensitive and shallow; but whether you like them or not, here are the possibilities:

  • 1. He's not attracted to you

  • Attractiveness is key to any romantic relationship. It just is. If he's not attracted to you he'll never admit it because he doesn't want to hurt your feelings. Sorry hun; sometimes that's just the way the cookie crumbles. You'll find the one.

  • 2. He's afraid of commitment

  • Change can be scary.

  • 3. Or he dislikes commitment

  • He may view commitment as a restriction to his freedom ... like pants.

  • 4. He's afraid of the future

  • It either ends in marriage or pain ... or both. That's daunting.

  • 5. He's afraid of the past

  • Bad experiences in the past tend to affect present decisions.

  • 6. He's afraid of women

  • Literally. Gynophobia. It's a thing.

  • 7. He has other priorities

  • Maybe he puts school, his career or Star Wars collectibles ahead of you.

  • 8. He's weighing his options

  • Maybe he's dating multiple women and can't decide whom he likes more.

  • 9. He's unsure how he feels

  • Maybe you are the only girl he's dating and he just can't decide if he likes you more than his ex-girlfriend's roommate.

  • 10. He thinks you're too good for him

  • That's flattering, right?

  • 11. He thinks he's too good for you

  • This is less flattering.

  • 12. He just got out of a relationship

  • He may want to wait to make sure you're not the rebound.

  • He may also be worried about how swapping ladies so fast will affect his reputation (this is lame) or about the feelings of the last girl (this is less lame).

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  • 13. He's already in a relationship

  • Well ... this is awkward.

  • 14. You're already in a relationship

  • This is equally as awkward.

  • 15. He's married

  • All hands on deck! Haul anchor and set sail for calmer waters.

  • 16. He likes playing the field

  • Always a groomsman, never a groom.

  • 17. He doesn't have time

  • He may honestly just be so caught up in work and chopping wood that he doesn't feel like he has room in his schedule for you.

  • 18. His parents don't like you

  • Nobody is good enough for mamma's little boy.

  • 19. His friends don't like you

  • They're just jealous.

  • 20. He heard a rumor about you

  • Hopefully your male has the social skills to remedy these.

  • 21. He feels it's the wrong decision

  • He may have no other reason other than a gut feeling.

  • 22. God told him

  • He may pray to know how to move forward and feel that God wants him to move down a different path. It's tough to argue this one.

  • But be careful; your male could be using God as a scapegoat so you blame Him and not him. Don't do that.

  • 23. Religious reasons

  • Many people are encouraged to marry within their own religion. If you're a different religion it may be a red flag for him.

  • 24. He's a cheapskate

  • Dating means dates. Dates mean money. Money means work. Work means effort. If he doesn't think you're worth the effort, he's an idiot. Move on, or show him this article.

  • 25. You're too high maintenance

  • Don't act like Kim Kardashian — unless your male is Kanye West. If your male is Kanye West, refer to #11. And #15, of course.

  • 26. Compatibility issues

  • You're just too different. He'd like to be able to connect with you on a deeper level, but cats just aren't his thing.

  • 27. You're related

  • If you both have a family reunion planned for the same day, you might be in trouble.

  • Did I miss any?

  • This list is pretty extensive, but if anything slipped my mind, comment below.

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David Snell is a writer for the FamilyShare team. He's trilingual (English, Spanish and Movie Quotes). He's got a BA in communications and is married to one incredibly fantastic girl.

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