Did you wake up on the wrong side of the bed today?
Are you feeling overwhelmed, inadequate, left out, frustrated, discouraged or unappreciated?
We all have those days or even months when we're dealing with something upsetting or painful. Whether it be the loss of a loved one, frustration in your relationships, or even just getting your feelings hurt. Maybe it's something someone said or did, or maybe something they DIDN'T say or do. Maybe you're struggling with one of your children. Whatever the cause may be, we have the ability to change how we feel. It's just a matter of making the choice. MUCH easier said than done though, right?
I've put together a list of 12 steps that might help ease your pain or at least get you on track to having a better day.
Repeat the following as long as needed and know that you WILL see better days.
"What we feed will grow. You have to quit feeding those wrong emotions." -Joel Osteen
1. Say a prayer
Of course you knew I was going to say that. Prayer should always be the first thing you do when you need help. God is there for us whenever we need him. All we have to do is ask.
2. Talk to someone about it
Talking about it with someone you love and trust is very therapeutic. Share your feelings in a non-gossiping way. I always feel better when I can express what I'm feeling as well as get encouragement and advice. My husband has been so great that way. He helps me see things for what they really are ... LIFE LESSONS. He helps me figure out what the lesson is and how I can handle it in a mature manner. He's always there to remind me that I'm a great wife, mother and friend, I tend to forget. I'm sure you all have someone like this in your life, whether it be your spouse, a friend, sibling or parent.
3. Read something uplifting
Go online and start using google. Or search the scriptures for answers you need. Find an article that speaks to you and seems to be just what you need to hear. Read it a few times and really ponder the message. You might have a favorite book or even audio that helps uplift your spirits and gives you those positive affirmations you need.
4. Make a list
I LOVE lists. Make a list of all the things you're grateful for. Then, make a list of all the good things about YOU that remind yourself that you ARE amazing! We seem to forget so easily. I'm getting better with this as I get older and wiser, but I tend to let opinions about me REALLY get to me.
Let go of your pity party. Release those expectations you have of others and think of how YOU can make a difference in someone's life. Look around you ... is there someone in need? Someone hurting or struggling? If you can't think of anyone, then pray that you'll find someone. Bring dinner to a family, or invite them over. Offer to babysit someone's kids for the day. Visit the sick or elderly. What are you good at? How can you use your talents to serve others?
Write, write, then write some more. Let it ALL out. Put down your feelings on paper. Don't hold back in any way, then tear it up. You don't want to hold onto anything that may be hurtful for others to read. Wait a day or two THEN try writing down your feelings again, this time in a more positive way. Try to see the lesson and write about what you're learning from this.
7. Go outside
Get out and get some fresh air. Go for a bike ride, a run or a hike. Then when you get back, make yourself a healthy smoothie or salad. You'll be surprised what exercise, nature and good nutrition can do to your mood. If weather is not permitting then you can always do a little yoga.
8. Improve your talents
What talent are you working on improving at the moment? Is it singing, writing, cooking, painting, playing an instrument, photography? Whatever it is, start working on it. Getting your mind off the negative feelings and channeling that energy into something that's helping you become a better you will dramatically change the way you feel.
9. Be productive
Turn on some uplifting music and clean the house, organize a closet or your garage. Just get busy and get things done.
10. Play with your kids
Children have a contagious way of making you happy. We can definitely learn from these little babies. Enjoy the moment with them. Take it all in. Notice their little smiles and laughter as you play with them. Smell their hair, kiss their cheeks and look into their beautiful eyes. Seriously the best medicine.
Get a manicure or pedicure. Get a massage, get your hair done or go buy yourself a new outfit. Go out to dinner or a movie with some friends. If you don't want to spend any money, then go take a nice long bath with some essential oils, put on some relaxing music, use some deep conditioner on your hair, a mask for your face, then give yourself a mani pedi and finish off the night with a good ol' fashion chick flick.
May we all see better days and appreciate our struggles because they mold us into a work of art.
Editor's note: This article was originally published on Wannabe Balanced Mom. It has been modified and republished here with permission.
Crystal Escobar is the author and creator of WannabeBalanced.com, and Founder of the Wannabe Balanced Event for women. She's a mother of 4, living in Utah. Instagramming and blogging about women empowerment and balancing life as a Momprenuer. Sharing healthy lifestyle tips and information on building a successful online business as a stay at home mom. Kombucha maker, home birth enthusiast, and wannabe balanced mom.