It seems to be fascinating to children to realize that Mom and Dad might have dated someone else before finding each other. Maybe your spouse was your high school sweetheart, and that is a great story too, but if not, let your children know that you dated other people prior to finding the right one. It might help them navigate the dating world themselves as teens and young adults, and understand that it can take time to find the right person. No one should ever settle.
This is a question that some children start asking fairly young, but for others it doesn't come until they start thinking about the opposite sex in a more favorable way, (instead of thinking they have "cooties"). There are wonderful stories about how couples met that are romantic and perfect, but there is also the simple stories where a relationship started as "just friends." It's important for children to know they do not need to necessarily look for that special person.
3. What was college like for you?
As children start to realize that their school days will eventually end, and they think about the future, they may wonder why you chose the college you did and what your experience was like. Be prepared to tell them (maybe not TOO much information), as this may help them with decisions they make. Maybe you chose a university close to home for a certain reason, or you chose to start at a community college. Perhaps you did not go to college. Explain all this to your children when they ask. It could just ease some worries they may have.
4. What your favorite things to do were
As children explore interests and jump from activity to activity, they will be curious as to what your favorite past times were. They may not necessarily have the same passions, but it is fun for them to understand that you were in high school as well once upon a time, and that you played a varsity sport. Your children may realize that you do understand the stress they are under. It could also create a new interest for them, and an activity you try to do together!
This question can come at any time in a child's life, and maybe several times. As children learn more about the world, and grow closer to making some decisions about their future, they want to know if you became what you wanted to be at the age of 12. Help them to understand that a choice doesn't have to be made that early, interests change, and people change. Sometimes, it is just fun to share your childhood dreams!
The most important thing children will want to know, at all times in their lives, is that no matter how old they are you will love them unconditionally.
Liz is a wife and mother of 3 children, and one rescue pup. She has a BA combining English and History, and has always loved to write. Liz relishes her career in the early education field, reading, walking 5Ks, great Italian food, skiing and yoga.