Marriage comes with a lot of compromise, from how you fold the laundry to watching movies that aren't your favorite. But since it is in the name of your spouse you love so much, you do it with an open mind and an open heart.
The great thing about compromise is that it goes beyond expectations, which can be extremely helpful to your marriage. However, sometimes we want to ask our husband to meet certain expectations that are unhealthy to your marriage and hurtful to the man in your life.
Here are 10 things that you should never ask of your husband, because not only are they usually unrealistic, but they come with expectation that in reality he can't live up to.
1. To never notice another woman
Now don't take this the wrong way, because I am not saying that you should constantly let your husband ogle other woman and be totally ok with it.
What I am saying is that men are genetically programmed to notice women in general, particularly ones they think have attractive traits.
Don't expect your husband to never notice a pretty woman ever again, because he will whether or not you tell him to.
Trust your husband and know that just like you can notice a handsome man, it doesn't mean you are tempted to go and run off with them.
2. To give up any of his professional or personal passions
Your husband is always supportive of your dreams and passions, and you should be the same way in regard his goals and interests.
Sometimes his professional and personal aspirations may take time and money to achieve; don't be the one to constantly tell him he can't or shouldn't want to achieve them.
Be his partner, lover, and friend. Push him to do all the things he wants to do and help him understand that you will always have his back.
3. To change or be different
There are many qualities and traits that you love about your husband. Some of those personality quirks drew you to him in the first place.
But there are times when these traits come with opposing ones that you might not be a fan of; if he is very optimistic and carefree, that means he can forget important things like appointments and picking up the dry-cleaning.
She is his mother, and that position deserves some respect. If there are times when you have differentiating opinion from your mother-in-law, talk to him in private and make sure he doesn't ever have to feel like he has to choose.
Compromise is an essential part of any marriage, but don't think you can expect too much from these compromises. Being realistic about what you can ask of your husband will make sure you don't jeopardize your relationship.