When asked how you feel about something, do not answer how you really feel. If there is a controversial topic, stay away. Avoid any blogging, commenting, or chatting about politics.
3. Avoid getting too close to anyone
If you feel those little flutters in your heart – run away! Don't spend too much time with any one person and never let them see who you really are.
4. Never try-out or run for anything
High school soccer team, city council representative, club president – nope, don't even try. You probably shouldn't apply for any jobs either.
5. Build walls around your heart
Constantly tell yourself that you're okay on your own, that you don't need anyone else, and that you're independent and proud of it.
6. Don't hope for anything from anyone
Remind yourself that people will only disappoint you, so don't place hope in them. Never hope that someone will remember what you want for your birthday, or that they'll invite you to their party or notice your new shirt. And don't expect that one guy to call you back, he probably won't.
I really hate feeling heartache. I do not enjoy being disappointed or frustrated. But I wouldn't trade the pain for the tender moments of pure surrender, connection, and happiness. Like that moment when someone says "I love you" back. And you know that they mean it because you look into their eyes and connect with their soul.
Or the moment you've just shared everything with your best friend, and they hug you and cry with you. Or the moment after the phone call, telling you that you got the job. You stand there in pure relief and victory, holding back the tears.
The price we pay for these moments is the potential for pain.
With vulnerability, honesty, and risk there's a good chance that I'll get hurt, probably really hurt, but I believe that the side effects are worth it. Falling in love. Fulfilling my dreams. Becoming who I want to be. I'll take the chances.
Alyssa graduated with a degree in Middle East Studies & Arabic and continually adds to her list of random life experiences as she faces one adventure after another. With too many hobbies to count she especially loves hip-hop, soccer, and photography.