Men, I'm going to let you in on a little secret…Your level of "attractiveness" to your wife doesn't have all that much to do with your physical appearance. Sure, she would appreciate it if you took care of yourself and made some effort to look (and smell) nice, but those are probably not the most important factors to her. You don't have to look like one of the guys from Magic Mike or have six-pack abs to be the man of her dreams. You just need to do these five things…
You will be incredibly attractive to your wife when you…
1. Take the time to be a good dad
If you have children, taking the time to be an attentive and thoughtful father will do more to make you "attractive" in your wife's eyes than nearly anything else. You don't have to be a "perfect" dad (because there's no such thing), but you have to be present and you have to be consistent.
2. Help out around the house
Statistics show that even in situations where both spouses work full-time outside the home, the wife usually still ends up doing the majority of the work around the house. Men, when we will roll up our sleeves to help around the house, your wife will take notice. Who knows where those chores might lead! Think of "Chore-Play" as a form of foreplay!
3. Continue to pursue her
When you were first dating your wife, you were probably doing thoughtful and romantic gestures all the time, but as life goes on, the pursuit probably slowed down. Your wife still wants and needs your continuous pursuit. She wants you to tell her she is beautiful. She longs for spontaneity and adventure with you. Find ways to keep showing your love, affection and pursuit of her heart in every season of your marriage.
4. Give her your best; not your leftovers
As men, we can be tempted to give the best of ourselves to our careers or hobbies and then give what's left over to the people who matter most. When you will choose to consistently give your best to your wife by investing time with her, listening to her, serving her, protecting her and encouraging her, you will be much more attractive in her eyes than you could imagine.
She wants to know what you're thinking. She wants to engage with every part of your world, so let her in. She feels deeply connected to you and attracted to you when she knows she can trust you completely. Don't hold anything back from her. Don't have secrets or passwords she doesn't know. Secrets sabotage marriages. The level of your trust and communication will ultimately decide the level of your marriage.
This article was originally published on Patheos. It has been republished here with permission.