Mix up your texts. Make some of them tastefully sexy so your husband will not know what to expect when he receives a text from you. This is perfect for keeping the spark alive in your relationship.
Here are some ideas on what you can text to him:
"Can't wait to kiss you later."
"What would you like me to wear to bed tonight?"
"I don't know if this is normal, but my legs get weak when you kiss me."
"I really miss you. I wish we were together right now."
In addition, send a picture or video of yourself. Like texts, the pictures or video can be spicy or tame. You can be wearing an outfit you know he really likes or simply send expressions of your love.
2. Show and initiate PDA
Express your love and appreciation by showing public displays of affection. Hold hands while walking, and give him a random hug and kiss when you are out together.
When your husband walks in the door, stop what you are doing to embrace him and give him a kiss. Be a little more forward sometimes with a more passionate kiss. Do not let routine get in the way of showing and expressing your love.
Showing PDA is a great way to stay connected emotionally. Although sex is often believed to be the driving motivation for infidelity, research shows that, particularly among men, emotional dissatisfaction is more likely to drive a man to an affair. Signs of affection help solidify emotional health.
PDA can lead to renewed intimacy and passion in the bedroom. Bedroom habits often age along with a marriage. But although things change, it does not mean they have to get stale or boring. Mix things up and let sex be new and exciting, like when you first were married. And remember, intimacy comes in many forms, including hugging, kissing and cuddling with each other. Great physical intimacy starts with good emotional connection outside the bedroom. Be a little courageous and initiate intimacy.
Think about when you first met your husband. What made him notice you and say "WOW! I want to meet her"? Present yourself in a way that lets him say that again. Husbands enjoy seeing their wives looking good.
Do your best to look good for him and for yourself. This does not mean you need to look like a supermodel. Your appearance is more about you taking care of yourself, not your size or your figure. You are gorgeous to him. When he tells you how gorgeous he thinks you are, do not dismiss it — smile and thank him for the compliment.
Amidst household chores, taking care of an entire family, and doing her best to keep everyone happy, a woman often neglects herself. Take time in your busy day to pamper yourself so you feel good about yourself. Then send him a photo of how great you look!
4. Be his biggest supporter and advocate
It is so easy to focus on the negative and what your husband is not doing. Focus on what he's doing right rather than how he's making you mad. Concentrate on the positive. You can do this by encouraging him. Encouragement builds him up and makes him feel good about himself.
Let him know you need him. Allow him to do things for you, such as holding the door open for you or opening a jar that you are struggling with. It may sound backwards, but allowing your husband to help you helps him have a great day. Become interested in his day-to-day activities and ask questions to show you care.
Enjoy each other and cherish the relationship you have as you grow together.
Ultimately, allow yourself to have fun as you flirt with him. As you do, he will have the best day ever and in return, he will return the favor and give you the best day ever.