Silent sufferers speak out about the shocking realities of infidelity

Silent sufferers finally speak up about the effect their spouse's infidelity had on their lives.

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  • "I would sit comatose thinking, 'My husband. The man that I married, and the man that I loved ...'" She said, "'That man betrayed me.'"

  • Millions of marriages are affected by infidelity. This can come by way of compulsive pornography use or cheating.

  • This was a truth that hit home to Jeni (last name withheld) when she discovered her husband's pornography and sexual addiction.

  • "I sat there defeated. Thinking, this is my life and my husband did this," she said, " There was a time when I numbed out ... and I felt alone."

  • However, Jeni wasn't alone. She alongside 70 percent of spouses who had unfaithful partners suffer from Betrayal Trauma. This is a condition paralleling that of Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD).

  • Many of the symptoms of Betrayal Trauma are the same as PTSD. This could include anxiety, fear and depression.

  • The sad part is most betrayed spouses silently suffer with embarrassment and shame.

  • "You hear all the things people are telling you. Once a cheater always a cheater. You deserve better. Leave him now," said Jeni, "Everyone is telling you what to do. Part of you is humiliated by that thought and those feelings. And really I was comatose for a long time because of this."

  • Listen as Jeni alongside other women share the pain they felt, and how their husband's infidelity impacted their lives.

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