There is a good side and a bad side to everything. Technology, in many ways, has affected our lives positively. It has made it faster and easier to communicate with others and find information. However, it has also ensnared many people and caused a lot of heartache.
Studies indicate that Internet and cell phones have become a great temptation for many people to deceive their partners. Yes, there's nothing wrong with having friends of the opposite sex, but how appropriate is it to have your ex-boyfriend or girlfriend as a friend on social networks when you are married? Most of us are learning that many social networks are facilitating infidelity. It is common for people to find old romantic partners and desire to relive the past. These networks make it easy to come into contact with people of the opposite sex.
Because of technology, you could be sitting right next to your partner while still being unfaithful. These cyber relationships usually begin as a simple friendship that grows into a spark. Before you know it, an intense emotional attachment forms and explicit messages are being sent back and forth. Although no physical contact is made between these cyber lovers, just like any kind of infidelity, these relationships often end in pain, embarrassment and broken homes.
Here are some tips that will help you avoid these temptations and save your relationship:
Stop the temptation when it is still small
When you feel like a conversation with a "friend" is starting to feel a little heated, turn off your chat and disconnect from the Internet. Don't even let it get close.
It is imperative that when you start or restart any relationship with someone you knew long ago, you tell that person you're married or have a serious relationship and that only you offer your friendship.
Clearly indicate your status
Putting in your information that you are married or in a relationship leaves a clear message that you're already taken and not looking for anyone else. Stay away from any indicators that you are available.
Watch for signals
In the past, the warning signs of infidelity was lipstick on his shirt or her staying out late without a good explanation. In these technological times, the signals have changed. Make an analysis of you and your partner. If you are spending too much time online or on the phone with someone else, pay attention.
If you think you would be embarrassed if your partner or your children read what you put on the Internet or typed in a text, it is very clear that things have gotten out of hand. If you are going through some of the stages that I mentioned, talk to your partner. Open and honest communication is essential.
Use your technology wisely
Of course, there is nothing wrong with having a Facebook account or a cell phone. It isn't a sin to have members of the opposite gender in your list of friends or contacts. But if you begin to feel a craving for communication with one of these people, be careful. It is easier to delete them as a friend than it is to mend a relationship broken by infidelity.
Many years ago, the great man, David McKay said, "Sow a thought, reap an act. Sow an act, reap a habit. Sow a habit, reap a character. Sow a character, reap an eternal destiny."
My simple advice is do not flirt with temptation. The little choices you make will ultimately secure your destiny. Keep your relationship strong and safe from the potential dangers of technology. You will be glad you did.