Here are the 36 questions to ask your spouse on your dreamy date night — yes, the one that is going to help you two fall madly in love all over again. Go ahead, bring your phone on your date (check out this list of apps) and go through each of these questions one by one. Sparks are going to fly, folks. They are going to fly.
Open your 36 Questions app and put the study by Dr. Aron to the test — your marriage deserves this refreshing little experiment! Now, a few reminders: You're not going to answer the questions with one or two words, or with the phrase, "You already know." You're not going to complain about how silly this is, or how awkward you feel. You are going to open up, and take a chance at love again; deep, connected love. The kind you sometimes miss and even ache for.
You and your spouse are going to ask each other these questions over the course of an hour and a half (or more), and have a deep, meaningful conversation. It's going to be renewing, enlightening and romantic. And you're going to find yourself suddenly very attracted to your spouse, and very connected to him or her. That's the magic of it all. Just 36 little questions for a more intimate and close connection with your one true love. Happy loving, friends.
Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?
Would you like to be famous? In what way?
Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why?
What would constitute a "perfect" day for you?
When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?
If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want?
Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die?
Name three things you and your [spouse] appear to have in common.
For what in your life do you feel most grateful?
If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?
Take four minutes and tell your [spouse] your life story in as much detail as possible.
If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be?
Aaron & April are the founders of Nurturing Marriage, a website dedicated to strengthening marriages. They enjoy playing football with their two little boys, watching sports, eating cereal late at night, and going out for frozen yogurt.