Nobody can say they've never felt jealousy — it's something we have all experienced. Although it's a common human emotion, we still need to know how to handle it. It's a powerful feeling that can alter our moods seemingly without reason. The consequences of this emotion aren't pleasant for anyone; your mood suddenly changes, you get cranky, and say hurtful things to the ones you love.
If you find you are feeling jealous in every conceivable situation, conversation, or with everyone you interact with, here are some things to make note of to help control this powerful emotion.
Be actively involved in your own life
Don't let comparison get the best of you. Create a space where you feel good. Keep your schedule full of activities that boost yourself up to drive away feelings of jealous comparison.
Be your own cheerleader
Don't fall into the trap of thinking negatively. Jealousy often makes you feel inadequate; don't let it. Remember how important you are, and remember your worth. Think about pleasant and quiet moments to lift you up. Allow positive thoughts to overcome your jealous mood and make your day more enjoyable.
Block the blurting
Don't let your jealousy take over your conversation. Before you blurt out your ugly, jealous thoughts, take time to breathe and define your feelings. Why you are feeling this way? If it's related to a relationship, talk to your partner about what caused your jealous feelings. You will need to listen and not interrupt as you have this respectful conversation.
You matter. While you may be jealous of someone else, it's vital to remember that there are those who look at you with loving eyes. You don't need to prove anything to anyone. Don't feel the need to compete with others to get attention.
Trust your partner
Banish jealousy by fully trusting your partner. This is key to having a happy and confident relationship. Work towards having good communication to eliminate fears of lying and deceit. This will help you love and respect each other, as well as help you overcome jealousy.
Your imagination can be your worst nightmare when it comes to jealousy. Learn to be realistic about expectations and goals. Focus on yourself and learn to clearly differentiate the difference between an achievable goal, and an unreachable dream.
Finally, If you are unable to overcome your jealousy, seek help. If you feel jealousy dominates your entire life, go to a professional.
Moderate jealousy is normal, but often times we feel jealous in situations that don't really justify that strong emotion. These reasons can multiply, turning every interaction into a flood of jealousy. If you feel like you are spending all of your time being jealous of everything and everyone, turn to a professional.
This is an adaptation and translation of the original article, "Es normal sentir celos". It has been republished here with permission.