It was one of those days. I wanted to curl up in a ball, throw the covers over my head and press rewind. Throughout the day, I pinched myself, trying to wake up from my horrific nightmare. It seemed absolutely nothing was going my way, and I was just two steps away from falling to pieces on the kitchen floor. I remember looking at the clock and counting down the hours until bedtime, the hours until I could attempt to sleep away the horrors of the day.
We all have those days when nothing seems to go right. We're stressed, embarrassed, discouraged, frustrated, lonely, hurt. We feel as though we are carrying loads of bricks on our backs. And when those bad days come, we tend to lose focus on the good. We lose focus on what really matters.
No matter how down and depressed you feel, here are five things you're bound to forget (but never should) when those horrible days come.
Take a time out
When you feel upset and frustrated, take a step away from whatever is the culprit behind those feelings. If your children are making you upset, hide in your closet for five minutes and have a good cry. If you are frustrated with your finances, put them away for a while and take a deep breath. Don't look at them until you are calm and free from distractions.
We all need time to recoup and let our blood pressure drop. When we are stressed and frustrated, we won't be productive. We may even say things we will later regret. Give yourself a little "you" time. Put on some music, go for a run — just do whatever you need to feel like yourself again.
Fall to your knees
On my horrible day, as the awful events racked up, I just kept thinking, "Can't I get a little intervention? Can't I catch a break somewhere?" And then I realized, I never asked. During those bad days, fall to your knees and ask God to help lift some of the burdens you are experiencing. He will help.
Remember, even if your prayers aren't answered right away or answers don't seem to come for a while, God still hears you. He knows what is best for you, even when you think you know better than He does.
You are loved
When bad days come, it is easy to feel alone. It is easy to feel like nobody wants to hear about your problems. But there is always someone to come to your aid. It may be a friend, a neighbor, a child or your spouse. Ask someone to help you out. Don't be ashamed that you're having a bad day. The person who helps you will have his or her own bad days as well. Let others know when you need time to get things done, fix the day and calm yourself down. There is always someone willing to help when needed.
Even as an adult, it is perfectly OK to grab your pillow and cry. Just because you are grown, it doesn't mean that you have to be strong all the time. When you hold in those emotions for too long, you will eventually break. Let the emotions out.
Focus on the moment
Don't lose sight of what really matters in life. If you are having a difficult time, put all distractions away and focus on your family. Listen to your family members, play with them, laugh with them. Spend one-on-one time with your spouse. Do a small act of service to show how much you love and appreciate all your spouse does for you. Your family can bring you an immeasurable amount of joy. Don't forget that the one thing with the greatest potential to make you happy is right in front of you.
Yes, bad days come. Tears will flow, and you will want to hit rewind, pleading for a break; however, no matter what challenges and burdens occur during your worst days, remember that you choose your own attitude. You have the power to decide to be happy. Take control of your emotions, spend some time with your family and never forget that you have the power.
Courtnie is an editor for FamilyShare.com and has a degree in journalism. She has a slight obsession with running, newspapers and large fuzzy blankets. She currently lives in Idaho with her husband and two sons.