Here are three ways that will lead toward more love and intimacy in your marriage:
1. More communication
Generally, the more a couple talks to each other about their own personal intimacy, the bigger and better that intimacy becomes. From asking the right questions to our partners (what they need, what they are feeling, what they are comfortable with) to speaking honestly about any concerns, good communication always leads to better lovemaking.
Communication should happen before, during and after!
2. More selflessness
The key to "making lovemaking better" is to think more about your partner's fulfillment and pleasure than about your own. This is not easy, but it is very, very important.
We all know that men and women are wired differently and respond differently when it comes to intimacy. If a husband is a good lover, he will work at understanding the social and emotional lovemaking that must precede physical lovemaking in order to maximize joy for his wife. If a wife is a good lover, she will address both the emotional and physical aspects of her husband's feelings.