Tips on making your love-language communication better
Gary Chapman helped the world understand the different sorts of "love languages" that people speak. When members of a family speak different love languages, the communication can be difficult and put a real crimp in the harmony of a home.
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When there are different languages being spoken in a home, it often becomes frustrating. Sometimes we give up altogether trying to communicate. It's no different or less important with love languages. Gary Chapman, author of The 5 Love Languages helped us understand that we don't always understand each other's needs and how we can better do that.
Here's how they can be broken down
Words of affirmation
This is where you tell someone how you feel about them, what a wonderful job they are doing as a parent, or what a great home they have made. It's about taking the time to actually put into words what you feel in your heart and what they need to hear.
Acts of service
This is where you show with your hands what you feel in your heart. It would involve things like mopping the floor for her, or making his favorite meal. It is serving another the way they need to be served.
Sometimes people need to receive a tangible something that shows them they are important to you. These gifts could be grand, like a piece of jewelry, a cruise, or a little trinket. The important thing is that they feel your love through a thoughtful gift.
This shouldn't be, but is often a neglected luxury. This would involve setting aside work, sports, hobbies, friends, and other things to just "be" with someone. Doing something they would like to do, like the opera, museum, or a sporting event, to show that you love them. Or, just getting a sitter and spending the evening alone at home; quiet dinner, movie, board game. It's the gift of individual attention.
Some people need to feel your appropriate touch. This can be as simple as touching his shoulder as you walk by, a hug and a kiss every time you part or meet up, or a nice shoulder rub at the end of a hard day.
When there are multiple languages spoken in a home, the best solution is to learn the language of the other people, showing them that you care and that you want to understand them. It's the same thing with love language. Learn their needs and love them enough to meet them.
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