Trying to raise awareness about domestic violence in Italy, a group put together a video that interviewed four boys ages 7-11 years old. The boys are asked their names, ages, what they want to be when they grow up and why.
The boys are then introduced to Martina - a girl. After reacting embarrassed, stunned or with giggles, the boys are asked what they like about her.
"I like her eyes."
"Her shoes, her hands."
"Her eyes, her hair."
"Just her hair, I swear!"
"You're a pretty girl."
"I'd like to be your boyfriend."
The four boys are told to caress her. In a gentlemanly and timid way, the boys each touch her shoulder or cheek. But, what happens when they are told to "Slap her, hard."?
The boys look a bit confused, and maybe even sad. "No." "I'm not going to do it."
"Why? 'Cause she's a girl, I can't do it."
"Because you're not supposed to hit girls."
"I don't want to hurt her."
"Jesus doesn't want us to hit others."
"First of all, I can't hit her because she's pretty, and she's a girl."
"Because I'm against violence."
"As the saying goes: 'girls shouldn't be hit, not even with a flower...or a bouquet of flowers.'"
"Because it's bad."
"Why? 'Cause I'm a man."
Violence is not nature - it is learned. Children learn to hit through examples of an abusive parent or adult. Stop the cycle of abuse. If you act out violently, find someone who can help you stop abusing. If you are currently in an abusive situation, seek help to get out of that situation and begin to heal. No one should ever be hit by a spouse, boyfriend, girlfriend or a parent.
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