For the most part, men and women have different views when it comes to how to show affection and love. Many men are not the romantics. They may only show their love and affection in the privacy of the bedroom. But a touch of romance beyond the bedroom never hurts in a marriage.
I knew from day one my husband was not the romantic type. He views romance in a different light. But he has come a long way. Throughout the years, he learned how to romance me. He shows me how much he loves me through minor details – baking my favorite muffins on a Sunday morning, buying me random gifts, sending an email explaining how much he appreciates me, or putting fresh flowers from our garden with a sweet note in our bedroom. Though they are minor details, it means more to me than anything lavish.
What your wife considers romantic may not necessarily be romantic to you. And that is OK. However, try to bring forward a tiny piece of romance into your marriage as often as possible. If your wife is romantic towards you, study what she does and says. You will slowly realize how easy it is to show your wife love.
Gentlemen, here are a few simple ways to let the love of your life know how much you love her.
If your wife points out to something she likes, but, unfortunately, cannot afford at the time, take a mental picture of the item. On a day you are alone, buy it for her. This will show your wife you were listening to her and that you care. Another idea to consider is writing a sentimental note and placing it in her purse.
If you see your wife in distress, without telling her, start working on her to-do list. Help the children with their homework and school projects or do the food shopping on a day she's working late. Your wife may develop stress from work. Take out time to talk to her about why her job is stressing her. Sometimes talking things out relaxes a person.
Walk down memory lane.Talk about a memorable moment you both shared. Maybe the memory was something that happened at your wedding, at a friend's party or a simple walk in the park. The memories will bring back magical feelings.
When your wife needs someone to talk to, turn off the television, the computer and put your cell phone aside. A slight sign of distraction will send off the wrong signal to her. She will think you do not care. Giving your wife undivided attention only shows her you are interested in what she has to say.
Mayra Colón is a freelance writer, former independent author and avid reader. She holds a MBA from the University of Phoenix and completed the Freelance Writing and Selling Online course from Rutgers University of Arts and Sciences.