Love is the foundation of all happiness and joy in life. We all want it, and we appreciate it when it is given to us. When we feel unloved, we can feel sad, depressed, anxious and irritable. Establishing love as the foundation in your marriage will bring you a lifetime of peace and marital bliss. Who you choose to marry will play a key role in your future happiness. If you question your decision in any way, here are 5 reasons why you should not get married.
When you first meet and the sparks start to fly, try not to make any quick decisions. Usually, this beginning phase of the relationship is filled with high chemicals and low clarity. If you marry in this puppy love state, you will soon find that those chemicals which made it impossible to be separated will soon fade away. As you get to know each other you will start to see things more clearly. With high clarity and low chemicals, you can make a more informed decision.
You are too young or too old
Different countries, and even different areas within those countries, have different ideas on the proper age to get married. Marriage is not reserved for couples that fall within a certain age range. If you are waiting for the perfect age to get marriage, you may just miss out on a wonderful man or woman that could help you fill your life with joy and happiness. If you are a responsible adult, you are never too old or too young to get married.
You are attracted
If you are basing your relationship solely on good looks, then you have a long rocky road ahead of you. Men can get fat. Women have babies. We get old and tired. Think long term when you are making a decision to marry. Can you imagine being with your companion if there were no sex? If your day consisted of easing the arthritis pain, changing your spouse's adult diaper and trying not to break a hip, could you still be madly in love with your spouse? Eating healthy and keeping yourself physically fit will help extend those good looks but don't base your entire relationship on them or your marriage won't last past the first wrinkle.
The greatest and most influential career you will ever have is that of a spouse and parent. You are the CEO of your own home. If you choose to wait till you have the perfect job you may just be waiting forever. You might have to learn to deal with a job you hate until you can find something that can bring balance to your life. If you are concerned with having the perfect career before you take the plunge into marriage, it is possible the greatest career that you could ever have will pass you by.
You are engaged
Who you marry is one of the most important decisions you will make in your entire lifetime. Your happiness and the happiness of others depend on the success of this decision. Just because you sent out the invitations, does not mean that you have to go through with it — if it's not right. People will not judge you harshly; they will most likely say, "good thing they figured it out before they tied the knot." Unless you are convinced that your decision is the right one, reconsider and marry someone that you are confident you will love for better or worse.
Selecting the right partner is a decision that will have eternal consequences. Do not get married just to get married. Be wise in making this decision. Seeing warning signs takes little time, so make sure you get to know your future spouse. Those high chemicals may fade away, but eventually, as you work on it, you will learn how to re-fall in love with your spouse and will regain those puppy love feelings while also enjoying high clarity. Marital bliss is something that you need to work towards. True happiness in marriage will take some time and will be a lot easier if you choose the right person from the beginning.
Dustin A. Wiggins, author of 180 Experiences that will Strengthen your Marriage, is passionate about discovering ways to strengthen the family. He loves to write and explore different parts of the world. You can follow him on twitter @_DustinWiggins or check out his blog Lessons of Wisdom to stay updated with helpful and inspiring ideas.