At one stage or another most of us will have a child that in our eyes has gone a bit
At one stage or another most of us will have a child that in our eyes has gone a bit ferral.
I am at that point right now.
I found myself asking, "what have I done wrong? Have I been a bad dad? and so on...you get the idea.
It took me a while but I really don't think I have done anything wrong, quite the opposite actually when I sit down a recall both my positive and negative parenting traits.
There comes a time when the kids THINK they are grown up (just like we did) and another time when they actually do grow up. The idea,I imagine will be to make sure you dont allienate them and show them that you are as supportive as ever when asked as they grow.
My daughter recently moved out of home and is really strugling to find herself and is up to her eyeballs in debt (50K @ 19) but she comes home for meals and poor old dad finds something for her even though he has little to spare...but it is a love thing.
She has also been told that the rules have changed since she has been gone, (even though they are just a derivitive of what she grew up with) now whilst n this house she will not lie and if she feels that she has to lie then don't come in the door.
It all sounds a tad harsh, even to me but the whole family just can not suffer because one cooses a harder path in life.
I dont expect it to be much longer before she comes home for a great big hug and as long as i am there to give it to her I am doing my job as a parent.
there a no rule books of such on how to bring up children nor one on how to put them back together when they start falling apart but WE do the best we know how.