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I got a walker with my second child and it was the greatest thing ever! I wish I'd had one with my first! I'm glad that that gives you some time to work, Drixkie! It's also really good for your baby to learn some independence and get to explore on his own. If you can, try to schedule your work around your baby's schedule. Find the times that he's the happiest and content to play on his own and nap time, etc. I've found that I can get a lot done first thing in the morning after my girls have had breakfast. They're full, clean, energized and ready to play, so I work or take a shower or start on my to do list during that time, then take breaks as needed when they need me.
most of my relatives are not available during the day so when I need to work I let my 7 month old baby explore while he is in his walker. He seems to like it, and when his separation anxiety acts up, (even thought he still cries) at least he knows how to find his way to me. Sometimes he calms down when he sees me and proceeds playing in his walker. When he is really hungry, sleepy or thirsty that's when he won't stop.
That's a great idea indai....I think sometimes we forget that family is willing to help...especially when it comes to their grandkids.
Maybe a help from a family is most needed here..I'm a working Mom too before, my in laws was a big help to me. If you leave her to your trusted person then I think it will work out.
My first daughter was the same way. We did exactly what hopefulmom suggested. We started leaving her with family for short amounts of time here and there. She got used to it really quickly. It can be hard and is emotionally difficult for both of you. But it's a necessary step and you'll both benefit from it! :)
In addition to the other advice, maybe try to initiate her slowly. Start running errands and leaving her with a friend or family member so she can get used to being with other people and not having you around all the time. She will adjust! Try to be positive when you drop her off, smile, kiss her and then leave. It might be difficult if she starts crying, but she will be okay and eventually be distracted by toys and playing with others. Good luck!
I think it might be a good idea to have her be watched by a friend or family member. To get her used to being away from you. And if you are going to be finding a permanent babysitter you may want to bring your daughter with you to see how the person interacts with your daughter and have her start getting used to her.