While moving through divorce can seem like an insurmountable obstacle, for many parents it is just the beginning of a new and equally intimidating challenge — co-parenting your children. Hats off to all of you who have chosen to remain in your children’s lives as co-parents. It means both of you care deeply about your children and want to continue raising them in the least-disruptive manner possible.

Of course, not all parents can share the parenting process in this way. And for some couples, it is not the ideal situation to even attempt it. But those couples who are determined to co-parent and choose to live relatively close to one another so as not to disturb the school, sports and other related schedules of their children, certainly deserve credit and acknowledgement.

This is a complex topic that can’t be glossed over with a few simple how-tos. It is based on sincere levels of communication and a sense of trust between former spouses. When handled with care, your children enjoy the security and comfort of being with their other parent when they are not with you. You are less dependent on strangers as caretakers in their lives, and that is a win-win all around.

One of the best things you can do for your children is to transition smoothly to co-parenting with your former spouse. It won't always be easy and there will certainly be challenges along the way, but here are some things to remember that will help make your new co-parenting relationship work.

Keep it to yourself: Don’t bad-mouth your ex around the kids, EVER. If kids ask questions, give them age-appropriate answers that are honest but not judgmental. Kids are hurt and feel guilty when the parent they love is put-down by their other parent.

Be generous with special time: Always offer your ex the opportunity for special time with the kids — before involving a new relationship partner — like taking your teen for their driver's test or to tryouts for a new sport.

Present a united front: Make it a priority to have mom and dad both there for special occasions; celebrating birthdays, graduations and other significant events. Be considerate of one another as co-parents, to eliminate stress, so your kids can enjoy a sense of family.

Pick your battles: You and your ex won’t agree on everything. So pick your battles regarding parenting issues. Determine what’s worth discussing and what you can’t control and need to release.

When you ignore any of these basic communication principles, you set yourself up for conflict, jealousy, stress and tension. Breaking these rules sabotages your sense of trust with your ex and that opens the door to mind games, retaliations and discord for everyone in the family. Remember, when that happens, your children are the ones who pay the price.

Be the hero in your relationship with your child’s other parent. When you cooperate, collaborate, are flexible and do favors, you are much more likely to get all of those things in return.